Thursday, February 14, 2013

Steadfast Love

I've been thinking about the steadfastness of love. When you're married a long time every day isn't an emotional high. Life isn't that way and marriage is no different.

The steadfastness of love allows you to realize that even though you may not be warm and flowy inside on the outside you know you have a life partner that loves you no matter what. He loves you with morning breath, bad hair, and loose baggy sweats. He loves you when you're hormonal or actually nagging (gasp). He loves you because he sees on a daily long term basis all you do for him, and the children. Though he's more even keeled than you, he values your input to major decisions and sometimes the trivial ones. He hates to see you cry, even though when tears fall it has nothing to do with him, but it may just be that that's how you're wired. Your steadfast love allows you to do the same for him.

Over time you learn that love is an action; but not just being busy and doing.  Sometimes love is just basking and knowing that you are loved.

Valentine's Day is every day for me - because we each try to live out love.  One day I heard the words that meant so much to me and it was no where near Valentine's Day; but even when I don't hear them, I know I am loved.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails.  1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Do you know that you are loved? 

Thursday, February 7, 2013

Not By Chance

My phone seems to have a mind of its own and inadvertently rings random people at random times; the reality is I don't know how to lock the keyboard. This morning I noticed that it had dialed Barb.  About an hour later Barb calls back and we had a divinely inspired conversation.

You know those older women that are mentioned in Titus 2:3-5? Barb is one of those. She is unpretentious; you can share anything with her without being judged - you just feel loved. We talked about parenting grown children  - does it ever end? She understood what I meant.  We talked about Prov 22:6 - training up a child .......and when they are old. I shared that sometimes I don't want to know what's going on in between the training up, and when they are old - it sometimes seems like too much to deal with.

This chart is my visual representation of Prov 22:6.  It really is just to indicate that there can be huge amount of time between the early training of a child, and when they are old.  In the interim the only thing that makes sense to do is to pray and trust God. This is not for the faint of heart, because in trusting you learn how to act, when to act and what to say or do.  The trajectory of our children's live may be great (the red line); they may do everything that we have taught them that is right and good and proper. Or they may go up and down (the black line), as life teaches them hard lessons. Regardless of what they go through, as a parent we are the steady force in their lives. This mimics our spiritual relationship with our heavenly father - doesn't it?

Barb listened; she understood as she has been there herself. She told me to keep praying and trusting God. There's so much I'm learning about myself in this season of life - I'm glad my phone dialed Barb.

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. Proverbs 17:17 (NIV)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy ... 1 Corinthians 13:4 (NIV)
Wounds from a friend can be trusted ... Proverbs 27:6 (NIV)

Do you have Godly mentors in your life? If you are female - are you the mentor or the mentee? Do you think you're ever to old to be mentored? Are you able to share deep harrowing thoughts with friends without feeling judged or condemned?

Monday, February 4, 2013

Figuring It Out!

One of the joys of marriage, is being able to say to your spouse no matter what the problem is  - "we'll figure it out."
We have done this many times - when we had sickness, job loss, or challenges with children.

But something that supersedes figuring it out, is both of us knowing that we don't have to figure anything out by ourselves.  When we say, "we'll figure it out," we're really acknowledging that at this point in time we have no earthly solution, but with YOU there is a solution and it will show up; YOU will show it to us.

And you know what - HE always does. Sometimes it felt like we were flying by the seat of our pants, but God came through. Sometimes we got reassurance that there was a certain path we needed to take and God came through. Food has been provided, jobs came through, direction on how to deal with children, the right word to say in a's all God.

It's good to have someone to figure things out with, it's even better to have God intertwined.

A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NLT)

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6

Is God in the mix in your marriage?