Thursday, January 25, 2018

How To Respond to the Unkind Person in Your Life

Hurt happens. It happens to all of us, often when we do not anticipate it. It happens in families, it happens in friendships, it happens with co-workers, and we even hurt ourselves. The most confusing kind of hurt, though, is the hurt that happens for seemingly no reason.

Maybe for you, it's the customer service person who's supposed to be helping you out but keeps making everything more difficult with their attitude. This scenario rubs you the wrong way every time. You assume that kindness is a part of their job description without considering why they may be behaving rudely in the moment.
Or maybe you're dealing with an acquaintance who is constantly inconsiderate of your kind gestures. They disregard your feelings when you express them and say that you are "sensitive" without trying to hear you out. You do not understand their lack of effort to change, especially since you've vulnerably expressed your concerns. As we interact with people in relationships we expect them to be as invested as we are in the relationship without considering that they might not value the relationship in the same sense that we do.

We label people unkind by our own justifications. We miss God's sovereignty when we dismiss people because of our hurt. Join me over at ibelieve to read the rest of this post then feel free to comment over here.


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  1. Such a great post and love the tips you provided. I'll admit that I tend to not have much time for unkind people and often don't think about what they could be going through or maybe why I'm responding or feeling the way I am. I just have this thing where I feel that everyone ought to be kind and if you're not I shouldn't have to surround myself around you. This post makes me think of it in a different way and to reflect on myself and how I can better handle the situation vs. just shutting the person out.

  2. Thanks for sharing these great insights. It encourages us to remember who we are in Christ Jesus and to allow that to strengthen our mindset to a healthy one, especially in circumstances that are out of our immediate control.

  3. Nylse - your post is being featured this week at #TuneInThursday Thanks for sharing your post with my community. Make sure to grab the "I've been featured" button. I really liked your 10 things to respond when dealing with an unkind person. Very insightful and practical. Thanks

  4. You've given great tips on how to deal with unkind people, Nylse. I especially have found that praying for that person helps me to heal and think reasonably about the situation. Thanks for linking up with Grace and Truth.


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