Saturday, May 26, 2012

Thoughts on Marriage...

As of March 25th 2012, I've been married for twenty three years.  I always say 23 and counting because I'm not going anywhere, neither is he. I'm pro-marriage as God intended it and always will be.

God created marriage. No government subcommittee envisioned it. No social organization developed it. Marriage was conceived and born in the mind of God.”  ~ Max Lucado

Lessons on my mind today:

  • Raising children tries a marriage; raising Godly children tries it more.  I love my children - don't get me wrong, but if I didn't have them I don't think I would be the person I am today.
  • Even though, our perspectives are different being equally yoked makes a huge difference in how we approach things.  We agree on the solution but may disagree on the implementation.
  • There are some things that produce constant arguments - for us it has always been household chores (esp dishes and anything related to the kitchen); who will do them, when will they get done, and how will they be done.  These days, I've made my peace with it and try not to get angry when this happens.
  • Our communication styles are SOOO different - my husband is low key, mellow; I'm the opposite.  I'm always accused of yelling when often times its the intensity that's mistaken for yelling. Sometimes I want him to show a little more excitement.  Just this evening we were talking and we got caught up in how we were saying what we were saying instead of what was actually being said.
  • I have what I need in him and he in me; he makes me a better person.  The thing about relationships is once you recognize that someone truly cares for you, when they tell you the hard things (even though you don't want to hear it) you realize its for your benefit.  Early on we both used to be very defensive but now because we know each other's heart our first response is to hear what is being said without putting up a wall.
  • When you have a wardrobe malfunction, its nice to have a partner who can get your zip up or figure out why your convertible bra won't convert!
  • Its good to get things out, if not they can build up and become truly big deals.
  • Holding hands, or having someone's hand to hold is beautiful.
  • I find it amazing that my husband always thinks I'm attractive even when I don't feel and look that way.

Somehow marriage came to mean that you'd be perpetually happy and the reality is not so. Since marriage takes two - each person needs to self-evaluate and make sure that they are doing and being what they expect from the other person.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. Ephesians 5:31

What are your thoughts on marriage today? Can you relate to any of the above?

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